Age appropriateness refers to what is suitable to the developmental and social maturity of a particular age or age group of children or adolescents. It is based on developing cognitive, emotional, and behavioral capacity typical for the age or age group. However, while certain characteristics are common to children at each age level, age is not a perfect predictor of maturity or situational factors, so tailor an approach to each child’s/teen’s individual needs and personalities.

Starting conversations when children are young sends the message that they can come to their parents/caregivers with questions as they get older without feeling scared or embarrassed. Younger children often have questions that they need answered, but don’t need all the details. It’s important to be honest, but not overwhelm them with too much information. As kids age, they need a good, non-judgmental listener.

There are many books, articles, video series, podcasts, and quizzes to assist in these sexual health discussions, but take cues from your children about the information they are ready to absorb. Parents/caregivers should use whatever works best for them and their children and teens. Read, watch or listen together, or if the child prefers, they can do it on their own and come back to you to talk about what they’ve learned and what questions they might have. For recommendations, see the “Learn More” tab for resources below.

Talk with Your Kids maps out a timeline of discussion topics and provides in-depth guidance for those topics, including a Talk with Your Kids User Guide you may find helpful.